You might have temporary doubts, cold feet, or wondering if he’s right for you. However, it is important to assess whether your concerns are strong indicators that something is wrong.
While insecurities can arise from time to time, you should not stay in a relationship where you have to tell yourself what you want, feel bad, are being treated unsatisfactorily or emotionally harmful, or have a gut feeling that you should walk.
You Have A Strong Urge To Change Him
You may have a mental list of what he needs to do or change to meet your list for the one. You may even get anxious judging if he can be that person for you. It’s absolutely fine if you need more than he can give you and you shouldn’t waste time hanging around with him if you’re constantly feeling unfulfilled. It’s important not to ignore any deal breakers that keep cropping up in your relationship.
They Have Big Differences In Values
These include beliefs, future goals, and expectations of relationships and commitment. After spending time communicating to break down these barriers, you feel like you’re still not on the same page. Maybe having children is important to you, but he doesn’t want to have children. While compromise is an important aspect of healthy relationships, don’t give up on your must-haves and what matters most to you.
He’s Jealous, Controlling or Possessive
These traits are usually rooted in insecurity and have the potential to cause resentment, anger, and relationship conflict. It’s a bad sign if he doesn’t want you to have your own life, forbids you to see friends, or needs to know where you are and who you are with at all times. In relationships, both of you should live your own life (rooted in trust and honesty) while living a healthy life together.
He Lied Or Cheated On You
This causes you not to trust him. You may have caught him in a series of lies or gotten feedback from others that he is not being honest with you.
He Regularly Engages In Unhealthy Habits
In fact, he loves you very much, but he loves these things more than you do. Examples include using drugs to excess, drinking alcohol, or gambling as a way to function. These behaviors differ from social behaviors. They are symptoms of an illness or addiction and will impact your relationship unless he takes charge, seeks treatment and commits to changing his ways.
You Are Not His Priority
If he’s serious about you, he’ll fit you into his schedule, make time to see or communicate with you (no matter how busy he is), and your efforts to keep the relationship going will be mutual .The one for you will make sure you know how much he cares and make you an important part of his life through his words and actions.
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